Writing DilemaA Guide To Writing Your Marriage Vows

 

Let’s face it…standing in front of a crowd professing your love could make the most confident of us quiver at the knees and feel all corny inside!  But, looking from another angle, it’s a super romantic moment that’s going to rock the socks off your partner and make them feel like a shooting star.  So maybe take advice from that old saying “dance, like nobody’s watching!”… and let the love flow!

Okay here we go…some tips to help you start summing up all those amazing things you want to say to your partner.

  • Look within. Your heart is the best place to start for inspiration. Take a moment to feel what you love most about your partner, a special attribute they have, how they make you feel, why they are the most amazing person on the planet to you.
  • Make them yours. Don’t get caught up spending hours sifting through example wedding vows on the net. Sure take a look at what others have said, you will find eons of poetry and vows steeped in tradition, but in the end, your own words will be more personal.  After all, it is YOUR vow in your own ‘language’.
  • Keep it sweet. Find that right equilibrium in time; don’t drag the vows out and don’t make them too short. There’s really no rules to the length of your vows but remember on the day, emotion runs high and a long script could be hard to get through.
  • The legal side. In Australia it is necessary to include the following in your vows.  Besides these words, the rest is up to you. The groom must say to the brideI call upon the persons here present to witness that I, (Groom’s full name), take thee, (Brides’ full name), to be my lawful wedded wife. And the bride must also say to the groom: I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, (Bride’s full name), take thee, (Groom’s full name), to be my lawful wedded husband.
  • To surprise or not? Some couples like to write their own vows and keep them as a surprise for their partner on the wedding day. Others like to share the vow writing experience and do them together.

A big part of a Celebrant’s job is to help you create a ceremony that flows exactly as you want it. Don’t sweat it, help is just around the corner if you get stuck! My best advice is to enjoy the experience and have some fun with it!